Whether you enjoy spending time with yourself, friends are too busy, friends are nonexistent, or you are trying to enjoy spending more time with yourself, THIS ONE'S FOR YOU!!! A few years back I wrote about cheap dates but now that we are material gworls we don't have to do cheap. (But I'll still throw some cheap ones in there just for the hell of it.) Spending time alone allows me to get to know be better. I'm sure you may have heard the saying of "dating yourself", and if you haven't it basically means you take time to get to know what you like, dislike, and who you are amongst many other things. By doing this you'll gain a stronger sense of self and the world slows down. Though some things are better done accompanied, some are just as amazing alone if not better.
One of the easiest things to do by yourself is to go out to eat. This past year I created a Tik Tok and I've been a foodie ever since. Shoutout to the Detroit influencers for helping me gain 10 pounds...but no they can actually count their days. Whether you go to your favorite restaurant or try one of the ones on your list of places you've been wanting to go, make time to take yourself to brunch or dinner. Go to all the upscale restaurants you've been dying to try with other people. The perk is you don't have to wait on anyone to finish eating, entertain drawn out conversations, Bonus tip: If you go at a busier time, i.e the weekend, the evening, or happy hour you might even get lucky and have free food and drinks;)
Another solo date that I absolutely love is going to the movies. I will say the only downfall is that I like to talk here and there but other than that 10/10 I'd highly recommend. Be sure to buy food, popcorn, and anything else when you go, it adds to the experience. I love my movie theater's pizza (the staff make the pizza from scratch with their heart and soul, IKYK) so I don't even bother buying food to sneak in anymore.
When life and people are stressing you out, it's always nice to treat yourself to a spa date. Whether it's for 30 minutes or an entire day (I vote for the entire day) make reservations at the nicest spa in your city. This will be peaceful time that you can use to clear your head, spend time away from your phone/the outside world. It's honestly one of the most refreshing feelings. In a sense it feels like you've been baptized and cleansed from the world. Which leads me to my next point.
Whenever I do yoga or any type of exercise, but especially yoga I feel that I've surrendered myself to what I'm doing and
I'm a whole new me. That being said, sign up for a gym membership. Don't put off working out because you're waiting for your accountability partner. Something that really helped push me to push myself was signing up for classes included in my gym membership. Sign up for the fancy gyms you see on Tik Tok and take us on your fitness journey whether it's once a week or 5 days a week.
One last amazing date you can do with yourself is a solo trip. If you're like me and just thought of this gives you anxiety then you can scale it down and do a staycation. This can be as extravagant as you would like or as simple as you would like. Go to that place that you've been wanting to visit but haven't gotten around to because everyone else can't afford it, take off from work, or whatever excuse they've been using. Cabo? Book it. Spain? Book it. Thailand? Book it. While I don't feel that I'm the best to provide advice on solo traveling since I've never done it before, I will definitely encourage you to. There are plenty of videos and articles that will have helpful tips on how to do this safely. As far as the staycation goes, book a really nice room in a really nice city and order room service, a bottle of champagne, and whatever else they're offering. Be a tourist in your own city. See what excursions and sites that they recommend. Book a tour and learn about that statue you pass everyday on your way to work.
No matter what idea you decide to try, spend time with yourself, learn yourself, and enjoy this time. Once I learn how to fully work Tik Tok, I should make it a series. Set a reoccurring day on the calendar whether it's once a month, weekly, or biweekly, just make time. As always, I hope you enjoyed reading and I hope you enjoy your solo dates even more!